First reading that this was requested to me, I wasn’t sure, but a few thoughts came to me.
Starting out in my relationships, I never expected anything out of reality or out of a movie; in fact the only thing I really have expectations for is to have a loving caring husband one day.
Anyways, here goes my idea. Most teenagers, or even adults, sometimes expect their relationship to be all peaches and cream- but it isn’t. People expect that every single second with their romantic partner will be always enjoyable and bearable and yes, for me it is, but sometimes it can be more difficult than other days; especially in terms of getting time together and helping when we have issues. Another viewpoint people have before getting into a relationship is that the guy or woman, won’t have ANY baggage at all, and good luck to you if you’re looking for perfection, but we’re humans and you shouldn’t really see things like that, we’ve all gone through something in life.
In short here’s a list of some people’s expectations about romance:
- The road will be easy (spoiler: it won’t)
- Your significant other <married, dating, crushing, etc> is the most perfect thing on Earth
- I’ll never stop loving this person <or: it’ll always be easy to love this person>
- The relationship will always be enjoyable and fun
Here’s a list of the realities:
- The road will have bumps and curves (me and my boyfriend remind each other of this, it helps)
- Your significant other will have their moments when they need more attention and love, they aren’t the most perfect thing on Earth, because they’ll make mistake
- Somedays it’ll be hard to love that person you fell for, you’ll go through rough times and sometimes they aren’t just the one
- Relationships all in all, are enjoyable and fun, but there will be hard times; there will be times where you cry, he/she cries, there will be times where you get angry at the one you love, but in the end, if it’s your true love- he, or she, will always love you, and you will always love them. But that’s your choice
This is just little parts I had come to the top of my head, if any of this seems inaccurate, I apologize but this is MY opinion and MY view. As for me and my boyfriend, we easily forgive, we talk through our problems, we tell each other what’s wrong when we can, and yes, we DO get mad, we do get frustrated, we do get sad, we’re not perfect and we accept that, and I know this may go against what I said earlier but even though he makes mistakes I find him the perfect one for me. And he will always be that way. And yes, sometimes me and him have discussed things we’ve never wanted to but that’s for our reasons, no one else’s; if your loved one wants to work through any problem with you, and try to fix things and set things right- he/she might just be the one :>
Overall, don’t let idealistic movie expectations get stuck in your head, love is what you and your loved one choose it to be; communication is key.